Q: I am 17 and my boyfriend is 24. He says that he has a high sex drive and wants my girlfriend to join us in sex. He wants me to ask her. He also watches a lot of porn. I am not comfortable with this and he tells me I don’t meet his needs when I am not comfortable doing some of the things he wants me to do. How do I get this across to him?
A: My concern is for your well-being. It sounds like you are in a sexually exploitive relationship, the aim of which is gratification of your boyfriend at your expense.
Sex is best enjoyed when it is mutual and meets the needs of both partners. You shouldn’t have to engage in any activity that is contrary to your wishes, particularly when you feel coerced to do so.